Do you ever...

• get really irritated with people?

• hold grudges?

• dislike yourself?

• focus more on tasks than people?

• struggle to get along with people?

• feel apathetic?

• wonder what's the point of living?

 

The twelve core principles: of this season will help you love anyone and everyone, including yourself. As you do so, you'll be motivated to do all kinds of good things and you'll experience a love of life itself. You'll experience everything and everyone with greater abundance, purpose, and zest.

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You'll find your heart rejoicing in your own existance and the existance of each being. Everything will be precious to you. And it will be wonderful.

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Love will make far easier to live all the virtues of all the seasons. In fact, each of the 12 principles of this season aligns with one of the first 12 virtues. This illustrates how love is the energetic force that facilitates every virtue.

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Go on a journey with us through these 12 principles and learn to love:

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1. Love with Humility:​

Transcend ego and narcicism to believe that everyone's journey matters. Everyone has the same potential to Fulfill Yearnity.

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You are not the protagonist of the universe. Everyone's story matters.

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2. Love with Meekness:​

When people hurt you, it is easy to turn off your love in order to protect yourself. Learn to love in such a way that you still love people even when they might hurt you.

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This doesn't mean you don't protect yourself. It's good to set boundaries and you can do so while still keeping your heart open to everyone, especially those who might hurt you.

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Mother Teresa and Kent Keith communicated this concept well in their poem "Do It Anyway".

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Loving with meekness will help you Accept Agency because you won't get so bent out of shape by others' choices (or your own).

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In his book The Emotion Code, Dr. Bradley Nelson uses the term "heartwall" to describe how we turn off love in response to hurt. Chapter 8 of this book describes what to do about these heartwalls. We recommend the book to anyone who wants to heal their hearts and let love in.

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3. Love with Selflessness:​

Selflessness is pretty simple: you are willing to make sacrifices, experience discomfort, or put aside something you want in order to help someone else. It's important to do this in a way that doesn't neglect yourself, which is a fine line to walk. 

Jesus taught, "Love your neighbor as yourself". You can't do that if you don't love yourself so loving and taking care of yourself is very important! At the same time, he also taught his disciples to lose themselves in order to find themselves. It may seem like a contradiction but you can learn to love yourself and be selfless at the same time.

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Perhaps the balance can be found as we focus on sacrificing ego in order to see ourselves as one with everyone.

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Selflessness is essential if you want to Communicate Effectively.  The whole point of communication is to engage with others. Use it to understand and get along with others, not to agrandize yourself.

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4. Love with Optimism:​

It is hard to love and serve people without an optimistic outlook. When you feel despair, it's hard to care about people or feel that your efforts to help them will make a difference.

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This is really important as you Create Solutions. Your solutionist work may not always get the results you want but it helps to believe and hope for the best outcome while accepting whatever happens.

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5. Love by Believing People:​

Believe that people feel what they say they feel and believe what they say they believe. When people tell you what happened, believe that that is how they remember it.

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And believe that most people are doing the best they know how given their circumstances.

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This attitude will do wonders as you help yourself and others to Process Emotions.

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This doesn't mean you don't eventually help people see new perspectives. But you do that after they know that you believe that they're experiencing what they are right now.

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6. Love with Kindness:​

Be friendly, generous, and considerate.

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Be kind as you seek to help yourself and others to Act with Balance. Someone who is seeking that balance will often vere a little (or a lot) too far toward one extreme or the other. To help htem stay in a balanced place, they'll need lots of reminders. Repeated reminders can be annoying to people but they'll receive them much better when they're delivered with kindness.

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7. Love Consistently:​

Build stamina into your love so that it can endure even when challenged by tough times, people who are hard to love, tiredness, boredom, etc.

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This kind of love is a skill that can be learned by practice. Every time you choose to love even when it's hard, you find it more natural to do so again in the future.

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Consistent love is interconnected with Staying Motivated.

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8. Love with Confelicity:​

This means you feel joy when others are doing well. You want others to succeed. This is the opposite of jealousy and envy.

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Confelicity helps you Increase Understanding because you rejoice when others grow in knowledge or ability rather than begrudge them for it.

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9. Love while Maintaining Virtue:​

Sometimes when you love and serve someone in darkness, their darkness rubs off on you. But that doesn't have to be the case. It is possible to put up emotional filters that allow you to fully love and engage with someone while not absorbing any of the darkness they're carrying.

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You can learn to love anyone without sacrificing any of your personal light and virtue.

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This is essential to Honing Perception because as you truly see everyone and everything, you will discover they are all beautiful (whatever is is beautiful) but this doesn't mean that the darkness they're carrying is desirable. Learn to experience the beauty of their existence without taking on their darkness.

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10. Love the Truth:​

Love whatever truly is. Love true principles because they fulfill everyone's yearnity. 

As you love the truth, you will resonate with it and it will be easier and easier to Discern Truth from Error and respond to each.

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11. Love with Patience:​

Love people as you wait for them to grow. Love yourself as you wait for yourself to grow.

 

This means loving them as they are right now which is essential to the Joy and Sufficiency principle which is the foundation of Knowing Yourself.

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12. Love with Temperence​

This means that you don't get easily provoked. You have a certain joyful mellowness about you and you don't get worked up by things.

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This quality allows your love to be resilient. You love everyone, always, in a steady way.

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Your love just is. Always.

 

It might easier to see than the value of these principles than it is to actually experience them! Think of a person or group of people who you sometimes (or often) find it difficult to love. Then, answer the following questions:

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> Why is it challenging for me to love them?

> What trapped emotions are impeding my love? How can I best process them?

> Which of the 12 principles above would I like to try applying to this situation? How will I try applying it?

> How can I call on the help of spiritual aid to learn to love?

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If you answer all of these questions and you still don't know how to love, consider signing up for a free one-on-one mentorship session with us. We are confident we can teach you the tools you need to help you learn to love.