Improve your communication
This page will help you use the three Core Principles of Communicating Effectivity to identify the areas where your communication could use some help. Then, you can use the four Core Principles of Creating Solutions to make your speaking and listening habits more virtuous and helpful.
​
As you make these changes, your relationships will improve, you'll represent yourself more authentically, people will like working and interacting with you more, and you'll be able to better coordinate with others to get the results you want together.
Let's Get to It! | Here's What to Do:
1 - Complete This Assessment
2 - Do Emotion Processing
3 - Implement a Plan
We prepared a list of questions which you'll access by clicking the blue button below. Click the button and following the instructions:
Now that you've identified what you'd like to improve, it's time to identify and process the emotions behind your unhelpful communication-related behavior. All habitual behavior is an attempt to stay safe from a repeat of some kind of traumatic event(s) that you or your ancestors experienced. The emotions that are attached to that event are designed to motivate you to stay safe. But your situation has changed since the traumatic event(s). You are safe now. You can process those emotions which will free you up to act differently.
​
Make a timeline of your life. Listen to your intuition. Add to the timeline any events that come to you that might be influencing your unhelpful communication habit. Go deep inside yourself and ask your deepest self if you've forgotten anything. Add anything that comes to mind. Go deep inside yourself and ask yourself in your ancestors experienced anything that might be influencing your communication habit. Add that to what you've written.
​
Review our Process Emotions page. Use one or more of the resources on that page to process the emotions of the events you've written on your timeline. It'll likely take many sessions of emotion processing to work through these. That's OK! Enjoy the journey.
Make and implement a plan for how you will solidify new communication habits. Write in your plan what you will do each day and each week. Be sure to follow through on your plan. Here are some ideas for what you might include:
-
Read our page on Changing a Habit. Borrow some or all of the ideas from that page and incorporate them into your plan.
-
Listen to the Daily Script for Communicate Effectively.
-
Write affirmations that describe the new behavior you desire for yourself. Use the Breath of Life with your affirmations.
-
Review the resources on our Communicate Effectively page. Incorporate of them that are applicable to your situation.
-
Review our Create Solutions page. How will you incorporate each of the Core Principles on that page in your plan?
Hold Yourself Accountable
You'll be way more likely to follow through on your plan if you hold yourself accountable in some way. You can pick someone who you report to each day or week. You can also write in a journal about how you did on your plan each day.
​
Remember that the purpose of accountability is to help you follow through on the intention which you set for yourself, not to cause you to doubt your worth in any way. Rather than view accountability as a way to rate whether you deserve to like yourself, you can view it as a gift you're giving to the self who you like no matter what.
